April 7th, 2005
So you’ve already heard about my first office stalker, and thankfully things have improved. But then lo and behold a new one arrives on the scene, and he (yes, I said he) is bigger and badder than the original.
…AND BY THAT I MEAN: HE’S CREEPY AS HELL!
The new guy. Sits in the cubicle area with the rest of the troops, a few yards outside my office. At first I thought, “How strange that every time I get up and walk outside my office he’s looking right at me” and tried to quietly dismiss it as nothing more.
However, today I was the source of ridicule from the peanut gallery, who unbeknownst to me had been watching this psycho stalker for weeks. My illusions that maybe it’s all concidental were shattered, as according to these eyewitnesses, he stares at me all day every day.
Now the only question is – How do I get rid of him? Maybe I could feign some bizarre gynecological itching and make twisted facial expressions as I scratch away. But for all I know, he’s into that sort of thing…
Any ideas people? Your input is appreciated.
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7 Comments
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Lewis Moten | April 7th, 2005 at 10:47 pm
Creepy. I don’t know how well you know your manager. Maybe you could ask if there is anything you could do. Maybe he could be moved to a different location in the office? I’m clueless. I hope nothing gets out of hand.
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Donna AKA Stepmonster | April 8th, 2005 at 2:53 am
I feel for you! I had one right after I left my exhusband. He was really creepy and it was my first time living alone. I worked in a dept. that was majority male. My other co-workers did not take kindly to this weirdo’s persuits(they thought it was their job to protect me). He was told to leave me alone in the harshest of ways(physical threats), however this did not deter him. Finally it was taken to the managment level and he was asked to leave the company for harrassing me. He did not leave quietly, for protection the largest of the men surrounded me until he was safely escorted off the property. For months after that one of the men would follow me home and check out my apartment before I went in. It was scary. Take your intuition seriously. I don’t mean to scare you, but you can never be too careful. Do talk about your concerns with upper management or a supervisor. You can tell them that he makes you feel uncomfortable. They should know how to handle it. I’m not promising you that it won’t turn ugly, but at least you will have made steps to protect yourself. Do not ever doubt your intuition. Do what it tells you to do. Be safe! Hugs!
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Neb | April 8th, 2005 at 12:44 pm
Ah, the joys of office life! Have you tried being aggressively friendly with him in a sort of chummy, har-har buddy-buddy shoulder slapping way? Some guys are scared of brassy, overbearing women.
Maybe you could invite him out to dinner with you…and your husband (heh).
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Nobs | April 8th, 2005 at 11:18 pm
Stare back, and don’t turn away until he does. If that doesn’t do it, get in his face and ask him what the problem is. Then again, maybe you should just report him and try to ignore it. Good luck.
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Jason Rohrblogger | April 9th, 2005 at 5:53 am
Leave your husband and run away with him to his secret hideout in Utah. Have a bunch of his babies and live with his other wives and children in a hut in the desert. Write a book about it and go on Oprah and defend your lifestyle as “God’s plan for my life.”
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Neb | April 9th, 2005 at 9:42 am
Ah… the entrepreneurial approach.
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JH | April 17th, 2005 at 8:26 pm
Take the bull by the horns. Pick a time when other people are in the cubicle area so they’ll hear if things get out of hand. Walk up to the guy, look him straight in the eye, and ask him why he stares at you so much. Tell him you don’t like it, and want him to knock it off. If he doesn’t, make a written complaint to your HR Dept with specifics — circumstances under which he stares at you, how many days it’s been going on, your confrontation with him after X events of his staring at you, the result of the confrontation, any other unusual behavior, etc.
No reason for women to put up with a lurker in this day and age.
JH