Comments on: Feeling Ugly

By: soapbox.SUPERSTAR

soapbox.SUPERSTAR — Thu, 01 Dec 2005 02:27:49 +0000

Its a roller coaster that no one will ever understand, unless they have spent a lifetime fighting weight.

Let me tell you, when I first started REALLY working out, I lost weight, but did not have that long lean look (not like I could be too long I am only 5′3″) - I learned quickly that I had to be careful with what exercises I chose to do. I build muscle very easily, so I chose to run. I quit lifting all weights and quit the gym all together. The running worked wonders. There was nothing better than listening to music, and getting outside and actually going somewhere. The weight melted off, I could not keep it on to save my life. My muscles became longer and leaner, yet very defined.

It is all about finding the excercise that works for YOUR body. Not all routines are good for every bidy type. Be careful though, do not let it consume you!!! It is very easy to let that happen, because being skinny and fit is new to people that did not grow up that way…

Just my 2 cents…

By: Diana Crabtree

Diana Crabtree — Thu, 01 Dec 2005 00:05:55 +0000

Martha can move on, and Hubby will find you hot if YOU find you hot.

I think there would be no harm in focusing on maintenence. Maybe you don’t need to lose any more. Also, if you get down to the LA style ideal, you will be torturing yourself forever just to stay there. If you are between 20-23% fat then you for sure should stop losing.

I am so sorry that you are feeling un-lovely today. I am certain that it is an inaccurate feeling. Even if you were a cow or a stick, you would still be beautiful, because you are kind, smart, and talented.

By: Neil

Neil — Tue, 29 Nov 2005 22:25:02 +0000

I think you’re just being hard on yourself. You should congratulate yourself on what you accomplished. I’m sure you look gorgeous.

By: Gweny

Gweny — Tue, 29 Nov 2005 21:11:36 +0000

Believe me, healthy looks better than skinny. Over-doing the exercise is just as unhealthy as under-doing it. When you feel good about your diet and exercise, you’ll feel good about your body. No one is perfect. Sexy is a state of mind, not just a hot body.

*Kisses and hugs* You sexy, thang, you!

By: Bill H

Bill H — Tue, 29 Nov 2005 04:30:06 +0000

You can read all this and either like or dislike it, but in the end you need to do what YOU want. I’ve been married for 27 years and my wife looks better to me now than when we were first married. She weighs about 10 pounds more now, but I like the distribution. (There was a time after our daughter was born that she was about 70 pound heavier than she is now) She continues to work out, and consequently lose weight, but not for me - for HER. Funny thing is, I don’t pressure her about her weight… her mother does. My wife is 50 and STILL lets her mother take her on guilt trips (UGH). Anyway… Don’t let anyone else tell you how to feel about yourself.

By: KangaMini

KangaMini — Tue, 29 Nov 2005 02:56:58 +0000

‘Rora - girl - we got the same thing going on right now. When I was at 170 I felt FANTASTIC - and I looked mostly fantastic too. Everyone told me I looked too skinny, of course they were used to the 300lb Kanga and not the New Hottness. I got complacent and the New Hottness gained weight. When I look at pictures of myself I can see the weight gain. It’s no longer the tight pants or tight tee shirts - I can actually see it in my face. It’s hard. I feel you girl.

By: Miss Meliss

Miss Meliss — Tue, 29 Nov 2005 00:15:24 +0000

We all have ‘bad body days’ I think, and really, stick-thin is completely unattractive. I mean, do you really want to be a barbie doll? I know I don’t. We live in a culture of extremes, and forget that most people do not fit ANY extreme. So, if you’re happy with yourself at whatever weight, or level of curvy-ness, that’s where you should stay.

Frankly, I’d rather be curvacious and cool than completely caught up in staying thin.

By: Web Junkie

Web Junkie — Mon, 28 Nov 2005 22:25:18 +0000

I say do whatever makes you happy and healthy! Good luck!

By: Andrew QH

Andrew QH — Mon, 28 Nov 2005 20:34:23 +0000

http://www.rockharbor.org/resources/messages/mp3s/2005-05-08.mp3

By: Deb

Deb — Mon, 28 Nov 2005 20:01:41 +0000

I don’t know a single woman who hasn’t felt they looked horrible at one point or other, no matter if they’re thin or not. I think you should do what YOU want to do, not what Aunt Martha or even your hubby want. You have to live with you every day, and you need to be happy in your own skin.

Sometimes I get to feeling like this at PMS time, and I always feel better after a couple days.