December 23rd, 2005
How do you know when you’re done with someone? Is there some obvious sign? There should be. Maybe that would prevent some of life’s more pathetic tragedies from happening. For example, one of my favorite people is hurting right now because his girlfriend left him… Guess she thinks she saw the sign. The problem: She’s screwing up.
This young lady wanted little more out of life than to be a wife and mother. She has watched friends and family achieve that ideal while she lived out the “always a bridesmaid, never a bride” cliché. However, when she was finally offered all of her dreams on a silver platter, she turned tail and ran at the first sign of a struggle… Pussed out.
Women’s behavior has long been a mystery to me, but this leaves me aghast. Though there’s still hope that things will work out beautifully in the end, it sucks to see someone willing to walk away from something so precious. At times I think people fear achieving their dreams every bit as much as they dread never reaching them at all.
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Lisa | December 24th, 2005 at 1:19 am
Sometimes what you think you want turns out to be not at all what you wanted. And I think people are definitely afraid of achieving their dreams.
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Trey | December 24th, 2005 at 1:39 am
Dreams stand as an unreachable goal that we always work towards. We can’t achieve our dreams because then we’d have nothing to work towards. We also can’t admit that any of our actions towards achieving our dreams are futile. Thus, the final result isn’t what matters; the journey is what matters.
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'Chele | December 24th, 2005 at 11:21 am
Amen sistah!
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April | December 24th, 2005 at 7:42 pm
Oh boy, is that so true. Some people are more afraid once the dream comes near. How unfortunate.
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Salena | December 26th, 2005 at 5:06 am
Such a sad situation, although I have found myself in a silmilar place more than once. Why do we do things like that?!
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Neb | December 26th, 2005 at 10:57 am
I agree with Lisa. Some people avoid “success” because of a fear of screwing it up. Does that make sense? I know several people like this. They would rather plod along, vaguely dissatisfied and unhappy, then go for the gold ring…because happiness sometimes doesn’t work out. That’s life, folks. Poop or get off the pot. Also, there are plenty of people who will talk about their dreams, when they are really talking about what they think they SHOULD want or what they think other folks (usually parents) think they should want. Naturally, when this “dream” threatens to become reality they panic.
You have to be honest with yourself. Luckily I started down the road toward my own quirky way of living life pretty early on, and also luckily my mom figured out that what makes her happy would not make ME happy (eg. kids, big house, big mortgage, etc.)
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Pie | December 27th, 2005 at 11:40 am
Just dropping by to wish you & yours a happy holiday season! =)
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soapbox.SUPERSTAR | December 29th, 2005 at 8:34 am
Maybe she is hanging out with my husband!
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Shanni | December 30th, 2005 at 5:07 pm
Sad. One of my good friends is 2 months pregnant, married 5 years and out of the blue her husband served her with divorce papers and moved to his own apartment in Beverly Hills. Everyone who know them is shocked and thinks he’s NUTS. It’s so sad.
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Xpnd22 | December 31st, 2005 at 1:41 pm
The only way poeple are afraid of seeing their dreams coming to reality is sort of a loss. So, in the accomplishement of the dream, purpose is also lost (fear of success) by the inability to set up life-fulfilling goals.
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Atomic Bombshell » &hellip | January 9th, 2006 at 10:23 pm
[...] As I’ve mentioned before, one of my best buddies is getting over a gnarly break-up. We’ve all been there, right? …Missing them, longing for those good times, wishing it would all work itself out. He goes home and the place seems so empty without her. All he can think about is her smile. There are moments of anger, self-loathing, and so on… And I am the worst friend on earth because I don’t know what the hell to say! [...]
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Atomic Bombshell » &hellip | January 9th, 2006 at 10:25 pm
[...] As I’ve mentioned before, one of my best buddies is getting over a break-up. We’ve all been there, right? …Missing them, longing for those good times, wishing it would all work itself out. He goes home and the place seems so empty without her. All he can think about is her smile. There are moments of anger, self-loathing, and so on… And I am the worst friend on earth because I don’t know what the hell to say! [...]
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