February 2nd, 2006
Personal change can be a slow process …Except when it’s not. When you can actually tell that you’re changing, that’s when you know something kicked into overdrive… That’s where I’m at lately.
In trying to figure out the exact ways I’m evolving, I’ve narrowed it down a little. Basically, I’m done giving of myself to those who bleed me dry. You know what I mean — I’m sure you have a few, too.
What we accept, we deserve… And I might finally be finished accepting.
Furthermore, I’m starting to speak up more often when I don’t like the way I’m being treated. This is a dangerous one that usually ends up getting me into a lot of trouble… But, oh well. On the flipside, I’m also starting to more expressively treasure friends and family who stick by me through the worst times, and do what they can to help.
Entry Filed under: The Black Hole
8 Comments Add your own
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Lisa | February 3rd, 2006 at 1:51 am
I’ve found that letting go of the expectations of what and how I thought my relationships should be allowed them to evolve into something worth treasuring. And getting rid of people who brought negative energy into my life helped to. It’s exciting and scary having this “new” phase in my life. But for the first time in a while, I’m not so scared of the hope it fills me with.
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soapbox.SUPERSTAR | February 3rd, 2006 at 6:03 am
You know, I am going through a HUGE learning time right now and am finding that the more I pay attention to what exactly I AM learning about myself - the better I learn it… Does that make sense?
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The Bombshell | February 3rd, 2006 at 8:26 am
Absolutely… That’s why I blog. It’s good not only to pay attention and analyze, but also document your findings. It helps to keep you accountable and gives you something to look back on later.
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Neb | February 3rd, 2006 at 9:19 am
Good for you. I remember hitting that “it’s not ok to treat me like a doormat” threshold. Unfortunately, I’d been stomped on so long I had a lot of bitterness to get over, and I really didn’t like being bitter. Ick. Things are much better now.
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Nihility | February 3rd, 2006 at 9:50 am
Accountable again
In my opinion, we shouldn’t be too accountable for our lives. After all, everything is part chance. You make plans and never know what you’ll get in the end. Even when I feel I have total control over my life something completely unexpected happens, good or bad.
Yet, there are always things we can do to help ourselves out. Having just had a near death experience in the shower, I can definitely recommend putting in handles at strategic places and anti-slip rubbers all over the floor (and another good place to put rubbers: the bedroom :wink:)
Oh, and taking the extra step to insure your safety is a good idea, just don’t find yourself with a 2 year stock of supplies in your basement…
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'Chele | February 3rd, 2006 at 4:16 pm
…You know, it should not scare your true friends that you stop them from using you… In my small opinion…
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Mike | February 3rd, 2006 at 9:16 pm
Once upon a time, I caught myself putting the people that make an effort to connect with me on hold while I wasted time and energy chasing down people that considered a relationship a friendship as long as I was willing to meet them 90% of the way.
So, I cleaned house.
I had fewer friends, and I never felt better. It’s quality, not quantity. If someone is detracting from your life, then you are better off at zero. If they are truly your friends, they will realize that you have not been reaching out to them and reach back. Either way, you come out ahead.
Also, anytime you stand up for yourself, someone is not going to like it, or like you for it. I don’t know why that is, but that is what I have experienced. People never feel badly for what they do to you, but resent you for not taking it. I guess it would be admitting that they made a mistake, and personal responsibility is not very popular these days.
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Salena | February 4th, 2006 at 6:41 am
…Here’s to change and new beginnings.
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